Things that seem sexy in state, may appear silly out of state
Observation is the key to creating a state
Observations can come from within (mental images and voices) or from the outside (things we hear, see, feel, taste, smell). Observations can be through any of the sensory organs..
To control a persons state…one must give them things to observe that will cause that state. States of relaxation ….states of tension….somewhere in between lays the state of sexual tension.
An orgasm is defined by some as the release of tension. After an orgasm you’ll notice that things which seemed sexy whilst you were in that pre-orgasmic state no longer seem sexy after your orgasm. And if the person continues it could become irritating and just off putting. Could it be because an orgasm is the release of sexual tension and by having an orgasm you could change state…from tense to relaxed?! For males it seems as though we release all our tension sooner than females…A female could have continuous orgasms in a row. But the male can’t. I wonder why that is…Males are able to enter into greater states of tension than females so why does the female seem to have more aggressive orgasms than the male?? (her sexual energy is XX and his is XY….X is tender energy and Y is aggressive energy) Maybe she is able to take more tension because she’s built to be a receiver of what the male is…(this is evident when you consider the structure of her genitalia in contrast to his…Maybe she’s built to take the tension of this aggressive xY partner of hers and maybe its why she cries “harder harder” during moments of sexual tension)…In any case….what we’re looking at is “why do things that seem sexy in states of sexual arousal…seem silly when there is insufficient sexual tension in a situation)
Perception is dependent on state.
2 core emotions: love and fear
2 core energy states: relaxed and tense
2 core sexual states: tender and aggressive
How can one get a person into the appropriate state before they begin communicating things to intensify the state? It would seem that the more tension an action could bring to a state the more silly it would look when done out of that state. Like calling a girl a slut in a sexual state could really intensify it…but calling her a slut outside of that sexually tense state communicates a totally different thing. Perception is dependent on state. How can we make sure our actions are perceived in the right way? It is by making sure our partner shares the energy state we are in! Energy seems to have an effect on energy. You either bring her into your state of sexuality or she brings you into her state of insecurity. Hot water mixed with cold water results in change but that change depends on how hot or how cold the water is but neither the hot nor the cold leave the situation slightly uninfluenced. Unshakeable sexual confidence is what you need…big enough to crash through her walls of defensiveness/offensiveness! People when in a state of fear enter those states of passive aggression or aggression…It’s a self-defense mechanism…it’s birthed out of insecurity, fear. How can you calm her fears and insecurity if you are insecure and scared too? An ability to heat her up without letting her show of “disinterest” cool you down! BE BOLD and SECURE…express oneself and not get caught up in an argument with her social mask of offensiveness/defensiveness…Her need is for you to boldly help her experience the things she would like to but is too afraid to initiate herself. To give her the hidden sexual desires of her heart which she’s afraid you’ll judge her for if she were to suggest them to you!…SEXUAL CONFIDENCE!
But no amount of heat makes water boil instantaneously, the mind and body need steady tension…over a period of time…before you can see an effect! You could represent this with the equation below..
Tension (divided by) Time = Effect
Conversely: Effect (multiplied by) Time = Tension
In other words….a state can be created in an observer by showing them an effect of being in such a state and doing so a number of times..And so we find that for instance…an effect of being in a state of happiness and friendliness is smiling…we know by experience and scientific research that showing a smile can put the observer of the smile in a state of friendliness and warmness towards the “smiler”. And frowning can have the opposite effect. This is even true with the baboons who show their rear ends (an effect which says they are in a state of mating) the males see their swollen pink rear and it causes a sexual state in them and they approach the female to see if shes willing to mate.
State of Mating: Human application….making sounds of a sexual state….or faces of it or words of it or touches of it… will likely create a mirroring state of sexual (tension) arousal in the obsever. And when in that state you can strengthen or increase tension (or arousal) by demonstrating more of the intense effects of that state. Talking dirty in a voice as though you were having sex, moans of a sexual nature, pulling of faces that suggest sexual pleasure, pulling of her hair etc Any of these things done in state is extremely arousing for a female and pleasurable, but out of state imagine how silly you would look if you grabbed a hand full of a girls hair and yanked her!! So it’s important to gauge action of state with that persons intensity of state. Begin by doing subtle things and great crazier with your words and deeds as her state intensifies. Tension is proportional to arousal. Hence a sexual encounter in a place where you and her could possibly get caught will hold more excitement for her. (The male doesn’t neccesarily share in her excitement as he isn’t as sensitive to tension as her…she’s XX twice as tender as he is)
In any case, it would seem that its possible to lead a person into a state not by asking them to please enter that state but by communicating through the energy you express that you are already in that state. Imagine if i walked up to you and I said “please be angry with me” what if i walked up to you and frowned and shouted abusive things at you and proceeded to physical aggression…would you smile at me? Probably not. Similarly asking a girl to be sexual with you isn’t what will get her in a sexual state. See your partner as a mirror then stand infront of their sensory organs (by words, visual expressions, touch) and allow them to reflect your state. Notice how listening to the sound of a girl moaning triggers an erection of the penis. Notice that this erection is an involuntary response. You don’t choose for your penis to become erect…Your ears observe the state of mating and your will is by-passed as your body responds to the state it observed! Similarly I believe a girl can be turned on without her conscious decision to be turned on..and also it goes in the other direction too…she can be turned off without her consciously choosing to be turned off! OBSERVATIONS create state. And your BOLDNESS is essential in bringing her out of her fearful state!! CONFIDENCE is seductive…seXY!
-Jeff Uguru
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